A study done by a psychologist at Oregon State University had some surprising results about the long term effects of positive parenting. The results revealed that kids who are raised with a positive parenting approach will in turn raise children in a more nurturing environment.
The study also showed that in families where negative parenting was used to raise children, the negative parenting cycle continued. This cycle continued because negative parenting can cause negative behaviors in children from the time they’re small.
This can lead to children who will not only act out but will often engage in activities that put him or her at risk for entering the juvenile court system. Children learn their coping skills through either negative or positive parenting.
An example of negative parenting would be the parent who lashes out at a child in anger. In return, the child learns that this is the way he’s to handle anything that he has to deal with as well.
When he runs into a problem as school, he’ll react with anger or aggressive behavior. Instead of reacting with anger, some parents don’t react at all. They choose to blow off whatever is going on in their child’s life.
This is an apathy style of negative parenting. When you don’t teach and instruct your child through positive parenting, he will pick up what he needs to make it through life from others.
This is one of the reasons that gangs or hanging out with groups of their peers holds such an allure for kids of all ages. They’re looking for that acceptance and for someone to pay attention to them that they didn’t get at home.
Not being consistent in your parenting style can also lead to negative results with raising children. If something is okay one minute and your child gets away with it but the next time he does it, you react in anger and punish the child, then he learns that you’re inconsistent and the rules don’t always apply.
Positive parenting always creates a welcoming, loving environment for child. In this type of home life, the child is allowed to be who he or she is within the safety of parameters set by the parent.
This type of parent is also the kind that is engaged in the child’s life. They know what’s going on with the child’s schoolwork, who his friends are, what his interests are and what he’d like to do in life.
In other words, they pay attention. Children who experienced positive parenting grew up in homes where the rules didn’t change. They also had parents that openly expressed their love for the child and were more likely to hug the child or otherwise show love.
Kids benefit from positive parenting by doing better in school, getting along better with their peers and having happier moods. Studies showed that children who were raised with positive parenting experience far less diagnoses of depression than children who were raised in homes where negative parenting styles are used.
Another of the long term effects of positive parenting is that kids are able to better connect with others once they become adults themselves.